Dalai Lama recommends maintaining closeness with as many people as possible, aim to connect with everyone in some way. Concepts of intimacy vary among cultures.
If we think of suffering as something unnatural, something that we shouldn't be experiencing, then it's not much of a leap to begin to look for someone to blame for our suffering. If I'm unhappy, then I must be the "victim" of someone or something. As long as we view suffering as an unnatural state, an abnormal condition that we fear, avoid and reject, we will never uproot the causes of suffering and begin to live a happier life. It is entirely appropriate to seek out causes of our problems, searching for solutions on all levels - global, societal, familial, and individual.
If you learn to develp patience and tolerance toward your enemies, then everything else bcomes easier - your compassion towards all others begins to flow naturally. Compassion is the essence of a spiritual life. The enemy is the necessary condition for practicing patience. Friends don't often test us, so our enemy is a great teacher. Flexibility of the mind, those most adaptable to change will survive best.
May 15, Dad added it. The Moms was watching a movie that was so filled with awkward and embarrassing social interaction that I cast desperately about me for something else to do. Near at hand was "The Art of Happiness" by Dolly and some doctor guy. I picked it up and began to read.
Except for the parts that are stupid or wrong. The problem is not so much what the Big D has to say, but the doctor guy's interpretation or amplification. T The Moms was watching a movie that was so filled with awkward and embarrassing social interaction that I cast desperately about me for something else to do. That's the problem with amplification, there can be a lot of distortion which can sound really cool if your Jimi Hendrix, otherwise not so much. He makes what I feel are some pretty feeble attempts to support the assertions with "scientific" studies in pseudo-sciences like psychology, sociology, and neurology.
Isn't it enough that it's true? Do you have to have "proof" as well? The proof is in the pudding and the world would be a pretty tasty place if everyone implemented the best parts of the ideas expressed in this book. How was that for a strained analogy? You don't have to be a Buddhist to get some really good stuff out of this book. View all 8 comments. Jul 22, Sarah rated it liked it. I love the Dalai Lama and everything he says in this book.
However, Cutler's input mostly detracts from the teachings of the Dalai Lama. At best, he makes small, often insignificant links between the Dalai Lama's point and western science.
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Like how he made the connection between Buddhism's idea of training the mind to the scientific idea of "plasticity" which proves that, indeed, you can train the mind. Was that ever really a question though? I didn't need to be convinced of that At worst, he I love the Dalai Lama and everything he says in this book. At worst, he purposefully makes himself a sitting duck for "how not to be" and then contrasts his own folly with the wise teachings of the Dalai Lama.
While real-life examples do make the sometimes abstract points of the Dalai Lama seem more accessible, it goes overboard. Also, his questions often take the conversation with the Dalai Lama in a completely different, often more obvious and tiresome, direction than I was hoping. With the conversation format, there were great opportunities to enter into intellectual debate and come to a complex understanding between two viewpoints. Instead, Cutler asked childish, simple questions that barely skimmed the surface of the Dalai Lama's well thought-out discourse, and no deeper understanding was gained by Cutler's interruptions.
Overall, would have loved this book more as solo meditations by the Dalai Lama, or maybe with an interviewer who had better questions and comments. Mar 07, BrokenTune rated it did not like it Shelves: This book was written by Howard C. Cutler, a psychiatrist, who spent one week with the Dalai Lama, and then used his interviews with the Dalai Lama as a basis for this book. Now, once I found out that I was mislead by the book, I still wanted to read on and see what the author had to say.
Unfortunately, I was quickly put off by two - in my opinion major - logical flaws in the construction of the book's premise: The author provides the following motivation behind writing the book: By the end of our series of meetings I had given up on that idea. I found that his approach encompassed a much broader and more complex paradigm, incorporating all the nuance, richness, and complexity that life has to offer.
He has a particular skill to explain complex issues in simple terms, but then simplicity is one of the essential elements in his way of life. The other issue I had with the author's statement is that I find the approach of trying to create a dogma from a Buddhist point of view a rather ridiculous idea.
If there ever was a spritual teaching whose essence is that it is wholly un-dogmatic and un-codified, it would be Buddhism, but then maybe I am just getting the wrong end of the stick. Again, this is a flawed approach when early on in the book, the author includes the following quotation: Underlying all Western modes of analysis is a very strong rationalistic tendency — an assumption that everything can be accounted for.
And on top of that, there are constraints created by certain premises that are taken for granted. So, why the author tries to combine, or back up, the topics discussed from a Buddhist perspective in this book with references to Western scientific research for which he often does not cite sources!!! Can't recommend this at all. Feb 10, Heather Kidder rated it it was amazing Shelves: This book always brings me a lot of peace when I read it. It calms me down and puts me at ease. I actually bought this book for josh but spent a lot of time reading it myself and its very enjoyable remind you about all the little good things in life and about what really matters.
Nov 20, Lauren rated it it was amazing. This is a book that has to be read slowly and with determination, with many pauses for looking-off-into-the-distance-deep-in-thought. It is not BY the Dalai Lama so much as it is about the Dalai Lama, interviews with him, thoughts on his beliefs and practices. It took me a long time to get through, but I really enjoyed it.
I think that if everyone tried to fit a little Buddhism into their lives not a little Buddhist, but a little BuddhISM , we would all be much calmer and happier, more patient This is a book that has to be read slowly and with determination, with many pauses for looking-off-into-the-distance-deep-in-thought. I think that if everyone tried to fit a little Buddhism into their lives not a little Buddhist, but a little BuddhISM , we would all be much calmer and happier, more patient and more understanding.
Jan 14, Whitney rated it really liked it. I really liked this book. It has enough information to open your eyes, but not too much to scare you away. The Author, being a psychologist, was able to take the Eastern ideas from the Dalai Lama and compare them to a more Western way of thinking. Although I've seen many of the ideas and thoughts in other books, the Dalai Lama had a way with words that seemed to just -click- with me, and in the sections that I didn't really understand, Howard Cutler, the author, was able to clarify.
This book is I really liked this book. This book is good for anyone who may be stuck in the same way of thinking Jul 17, Debbie Zapata rated it liked it Shelves: We all know that some books that felt important and special during a first reading can sometimes make us wonder WHY the second time around. This turned out to be one such book for me, I'm afraid. I first read it many years ago during a physically and emotionally painful period of my life.
The book helped me then, and I will always cherish that fact.
But this time around I was too distracted by Cutler's questions, statements, and ramblings to be able to focus on the Dalai Lama's words. I had to g We all know that some books that felt important and special during a first reading can sometimes make us wonder WHY the second time around. I had to give up around page 95 or so when Cutler related some incidents in India and the way he had reacted to them.
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All I could think at that point was 'here is this man with the incredible opportunity to talk face to face nearly every day with the Dalai Lama and he is not learning a single thing! No book about happiness should make a reader unhappy. My star rating is more for the old days than for these, by the way. Mar 26, Sherilynn Macale rated it really liked it. This book has completely changed my perspective on how I deal with anger, hatred, and other negative mind states and emotions. In simply becoming aware of the Buddhist perspective, I feel I've learned how to feel more in control of my own life, of how I carry myself, and how I treat the people around me.
I feel more compassionate. I feel more kind. I feel more understanding. I find it incredible how my Western upbringing contrasts to Eastern beliefs and traditions. Things that I thought were intrins This book has completely changed my perspective on how I deal with anger, hatred, and other negative mind states and emotions. It makes me happy to know that my sometimes negative mindset can be trained out of pessimism, and to be aware that there are those out there who have already accomplished this through the help of Buddhist teaching.
I think what surprised me the most when reading The Art of Happiness is just how human the Dalai Lama really is, and how for someone who is seen as a spiritual deity of sorts by millions around the world, he is every bit as equal as the "common man", and sincerely goes out of his way to make this idea clear to his audiences. While I may not be converting to Buddhism any time soon, I'd still recommend this book to those suffering from anxiety, filled with a feeling of loneliness, or dealing with any other difficult time in their life. I'm grateful for the perspective I've been given after completing The Art of Happiness, and I definitely feel this book can help those who need a little boost in their lives.
May 26, Romanas af Wolfsborg rated it really liked it. Cutler, psychiatrist and one of the leading experts on the science of human happiness has spent some valuable time with His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama and in this book brought a western perspective of Tibetan Buddhism and its take on human quest for happiness.
Happiness is a tricky subject. Some people spend their whole lives trying to chase happiness, while others are just simply happy, seemingly, without searching for any particular ways to achieve it. Is happiness the ultimate Dr. Is happiness the ultimate purpose of life, or is there something else that matters in our lives? Dalai Lama says — everybody should aim for happiness, and everybody can achieve it.
But what to put into it, what are the sources and kinds of happiness? While it sounds quite simple, a true meaning of happiness is one of the most enigmatic feelings people daily try to understand and pursue.
There are many obstacles on the way to that simple state of lasting happiness. The book starts by exploring the meaning of life, where the stage is set for the following discussions on how to develop capabilities of human compassion, how to treat others, how to deal with suffering, and very importantly, how to overcome all those bad feelings and manners, like anger and hatred — the huge obstacles of happiness. Our mind is meant to be trained for happiness by using right tools and right attitudes.
This is an important book to get that confirmed.
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View all 3 comments. Sep 23, Rachel rated it it was amazing Shelves: I really felt at peace while reading this book. I have read many religious texts from varying schools of thought and sometimes often in fact they get quite philosphical and over the head of the average person. This however really hit the right note with me. Apple Audible downpour eMusic audiobooks. About The Art of Happiness in a Troubled World How can we expect to find happiness and meaning in our lives when the modern world seems such an unhappy place?
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Get access to the best in romance: See More New Releases. The Art of Happiness. Nearly every time you see him, he's laughing, or at least he's smiling. And he makes everyone else around him feel like smiling. He's the Dalai Lama, the spiritual and temporal leader of Tibet, the Nobel Prize winner, and increasingly popular speaker and statesman.
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